23 Oct

Up here: Loon Lake, Washington w/ the Clifner Clan on their farm (Pam & Lonny, their 9 children (oldest daughter is in Costa Rica w/ YWAM) 100 chickens, 60 sheep, 5 dogs, 4 bunnies, 3 cows, 2 horses, 1 pig and a cat)

Neurotherapy is what I have been calling it…but the “real” name is…

Neurofeedback; “a type of biofeedback that measures brain waves or brain blood flow to produce a signal that can be used as feedback on brain activity to teach self-regulation. Feedback is commonly provided using video or sound, with positive feedback for desired brain activity and negative feedback for brain activity that is undesirable.”  (compliments of Webster’s Dictionary)

Pam Clifners (PLEASE contact her if you have ANY questions or want more info!) version, (as I was able to understand and now attempt to communicate)  There is no way our kids brains could have been wired correctly w/ all the trauma they have been though before they were in our care.  Neurofeedback rewires the brains pathways that were/are broken or going the wrong way, by recreating the new pathways in our kids brains that should have been there when they were babies, pathways that we now know can be regenerated.  It allows for their brains to mature so that they are not constantly living in the trauma of their past.

At this point, its best that you watch a video explaining…only 4 minutes long…easy to follow…it even made sense to me!

When we pulled up on the farm last week, I was ready to get the girls rolling w/ brain maps and neuro.  I was getting the info from Pam about what time and where…she included me in the schedule.  I was confused, I came up here for the twins…

Pam said, “How can you help your girls heal when you are exhausted, tired and worn from giving everything you have to help them heal?”  Good point…

So…all 3 of us have been getting treatment these last 7 days…I am seeing remarkable progress in the twins; sleeping through the night, less meltdowns, softness in their eyes, Bells smile has enlarged beyond what I ever thought possible, Ollie is trusting and snuggling more and even I am sleeping through the night, my brain doesn’t feel like a giant fog is hovering and I have laughed…cried…and sometimes both at the same time.


photo 3

I came here to help my girls, healing for their brains, answers from their past…

Some answers from their LENS brain maps;  trauma, anxiety, stress and depression…

2 year olds…heartbreaking…

There is HOPE…

If you are an exhausted parent fighting for healing in your children…you are NOT alone!

If you are wondering when you will ever feel like a “normal” family…you are NOT alone!

If your heart breaks for what your children have endured, allowing you to be their parents…you are NOT alone!

If you brought your child/children home after months or even years of waiting, praying and being obedient to God’s call on your life and its different than what you hoped it would be…you are NOT alone!

Keep fighting for them…

Keep loving them…

You have what it takes…it might be more than you can handle at times…that’s ok…

You are living a BEAUTIFULMESS

Why are we (Kara, Bell and Ollie) up here?


Posted by on October 23, 2013 in Uncategorized


7 responses to “Why are we (Kara, Bell and Ollie) up here?

  1. Lorie Neighbors

    October 24, 2013 at 6:22 am

    POWERFUL writing Kara! I am amazed and humbled by your and Jeff’s love for those girls. Thank you for being a living example to me of Christ’s love for me.

  2. Amy Robert

    October 24, 2013 at 7:23 am

    I am praying for you And your family. You are amazing and you exude Gods love. You are a blessing and example to me even though there are years and miles between us. May God bring peace in this time and keep you your ever positive loving self through these trials. You are a Beautiful Mess!

  3. Roland Hildebrant

    October 24, 2013 at 8:29 am

    Love it!
    Enjoy your vacation, and don’t forget to stop and smell the manure…

  4. JIll Warkentin

    October 24, 2013 at 6:14 pm

    Thanks for saying being a normal family, that really hit home for me. I long to be able to do normal things again. It is hard not to feel alone. Thanks you for writing about this process and helping me not feel alone=)

  5. abi8abi6

    October 24, 2013 at 8:51 pm

    I sent this to my sis though I think she looked into it. She has 2 adopted kids with much heartache and trauma as well. She is often overwelmed and has learned a new normal as she calls it. If you ever need a mom that will listen and REALLY understand I’d be glad to send you her email. Love you much, these heartaches are one of the deep reasons you are sewn on the side of my heart.

  6. Amber Stutzman

    October 24, 2013 at 10:21 pm

    Hey Kara- I hear you so much and I love you girl! We can do this, we will make it! We have to talk or see each other when you are all home and settled! Keep up the hard and great work! Amber

  7. Eunice S.

    October 25, 2013 at 3:46 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing. I still have trauma from when I had the two boys. Seriously difficult and virtually impossible without good resources. So glad you found a good resource! Can’t wait to see how it effects things when you return.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: